Self-Compassion in the Postpartum Period
Self-compassion for new mums: How a psychologist supports wellbeing after birth
There’s so much pressure heaped on being a mother these days. The sheer volume of information and well-meaning ‘resources’ can leave mums feeling overwhelmed rather than supported. This is where self-compassion becomes so important, as it eases that pressure by helping mums to approach motherhood with more kindness and realistic expectations.
Why self-compassion matters now
The postpartum period brings huge emotional, physical, and identity shifts. You’re healing from birth, caring for a newborn, and finding your feet in this new role. And you’re doing all of that on broken sleep with barely a moment to breathe. It’s also a time when postnatal depression and postnatal anxiety can start to show up. Many mums struggling with their mental health find themselves being incredibly hard on themselves, questioning whether they’re coping “well enough” or comparing themselves to others.
Self-compassion becomes especially important here. When you soften your expectations and respond to yourself with care instead of judgment, it can help reduce shame, support emotion regulation, and create space for recovery.
Simple self-compassion steps to try
Give yourself permission to rest, even if the house isn’t perfect.
Ask for support when you need it, reaching out to family, friends, or whoever feels safe in your support circle.
Pause for three slow breaths when you feel overwhelmed or on edge.
Place a hand on your heart and say to yourself: “I’m doing the best I can.”
How I support this through my work
As a clinical psychologist and a mum of three, I understand how overwhelming this season can be. At Mums in Mind Psychology, I offer a warm, compassion-centred approach to help you to better understand your emotional experience, let go of unrealistic expectations, and build a beautiful connection with your little one.
Final word
Motherhood isn’t a performance. It’s lived-in experience full of imperfect moments shared between you and your baby. Self-compassion helps soften the edges of postpartum struggles and supports healing, especially for mums suffering from depression or anxiety. When you look after yourself with compassion, it has a ripple effect nurturing you, your baby, and the whole family.
If you’d like support from someone who understands this phase of life, I’d love to meet you online or in my Coburg clinic.
